Always hit on the wingman to win over your dream mate!

London - The trick to get the man you want is to flirt with his friend, as it right away puts you at ease and arouses the other man’s competitive edge, according to a new book.

The philosophy is all about holding the power, said Jake, who spells out simple ploys based on tried-and-tested techniques in his new book, ‘Always Hit On the Wingman ...and 9 Other Secret  Rules for Getting the Love Life You Want.’

According to the Daily Mail, the dating columnist, who has advised many a woman in affairs of the heart from the pages of Glamour magazine, believes that his philosophy to ‘always hit on the  wingman’ is 'probably one of the most effective seduction tactics ever’ - as detailed in an excerpt of the book at Huffington Post.

The author has compared the technique to performing brilliantly in job interview for job you are not specifically interested in - your relaxed approach implies that you are able to shine.

“Hitting on the wingman is like interviewing for the job that you don’t want, with a recruiter for your dream job standing right there, very impressed,” said Jake.

The New Yorker has written from experience, detailing the night he met a woman who in due course became his girlfriend for a year. She showed interest in his friend, talking with him and  mostly ignoring the author.

He decided to relax and have fun anyway even though he liked her, she was evidently interested in his friend.

The author revealed in his book that it actually worked.

“I went to the bar area to get another drink, Ms. Gorgeous said she’d come with me. Yes! I was thinking. I got her! Little did I know it was she who’d gotten me.”

The girlfriend being talked about - Ms Gorgeous, divulged months later:

“You know, I never wanted to talk to Mark in the first place. I was just trying to get to you.”

He went on to summarize that the technique - every girl’s secret weapon - also taps into key male instincts.

“Men crave what they don’t have,” Jake explained.

By seeing a woman flirting with a friend, they at once become more interested in her.

“As exhilarating as it is to get close to a beautiful woman, it’s even more of a rush if we have to (figuratively) bonk someone over the head to claim that spot,” he wrote.

“More centered, together, enlightened dudes may be above this way of thinking. but sadly, most men aren’t there yet. So let your crush see you as a challenge to win over. When a guy gets  the chance to talk to you, he should feel like it’s a big opportunity,” he added.