Add spice to your wedding night

more often than not, it turns out to be a disaster. Silly mistakes, high expectations and unpreparedness leads to a 'bland' first night. To ensure a spicy and sexy first night, be well prepared.

Talk is out: You must be wondering what talking has got to do with having sex. But it's important that you feel comfortable, relax and let the feeling sink in (especially if either or both of you are virgins). Chat about the wedding and slowly talk about your love for each other. Don't keep your hands free. Stay close and connected. Hold hands, brush your partner's hair and slowly get intimate. If you partner is turned on, the sex that will follow will be amazing.

Be ready: By being ready we mean be well-equipped. Buy sexy lingerie to seduce your partner. Remember, guys love naughty girls on bed. For men, don't think you don't have an option. There is some really hot stuff in store. You just have to go shopping.

Slow is sexy: Sex is all the more fun and dirty when you play it in the slow mode. Foreplay ups the hotness quotient on bed. Also, try the various types of aromatic candles and oils available. They romanticise the atmosphere and are extremely seductive.

The non-virgins: Even if you have made out during your courtship period or earlier, the charm of the wedding night is not lost. Although, to keep the passion alive, make sure you do not have sex for at least a week, if not a month, before marriage.

Keep fantasies at bay: Today is not the day to go overboard and try all those 'things' you saw in that porn movie. We know you are an expert in all the different sexual positions. Don't show off your skills on the first night itself. Keep some stored for the later nights.

Bury the past: It's your first night, and not a confession night. Do not talk about your past affairs and definitely not about your previous sex life.

Be comfortable with your body: It could be a first time you are seeing your partner (or even a person of opposite sex) fully naked in reality. Also, it could be the first time that you are fully exposed. The initial hesitation is natural. Your partner is as nervous as you are. Be comfortable with your body.

Miscellaneous: These are basic things which you would already know (hopefully). Don't laugh while having sex. Use slang / vulgar language, it spices up the act. Don't pretend. Be hygienic.

Finally, it's your wedding night. Make it memorable. Savour each moment and make it an enjoyable one.