You're liberated and follow Dr Watsa's column closely. But are you having the best time between the sheets? Take this quiz to find out.
Whether you are in the thrill of a new relationship, or the comfort of an old one, a great romp in bed comes only when you and your partner are tuned into each other. To get to this point means you have to be honest with each other. That's easier said than done and many people are shy to reveal themselves fully. Where do you start? How do you start? How frank can you be? Will you feel misunderstood? Worse, will you feel rejected? This questionnaire will help you be candid with each other.
Both should answer the questions, hopefully cuddled up in bed. Differences can be exciting and if explored together lead to an enriched sex life and seeing each other with new eyes. If one fills it in followed by the other, you can compare notes. You'll spot compatibilities that you can build on and issues you can discuss with each other so you can meet each other half way.
Answer the questions and then compare notes with your partner.
1. Do you find leisurely foreplay a rewarding investment of time?
2. Do you touch people occasionally when you're talking to them?
3. Do you often hug and kiss your lover just to show them affection?
4. Is it just as important to please yourself sexually as your partner?
5. Are you comfortable with erotica and with being naked?
6. Can your partner initiate sex without you feeling troubled by it?
7. Do you enjoy having your body caressed by your partner?
8. Do you know your partner's erogenous zones?
9. Do you pleasure yourself sometimes just for enjoyment?
10. Are you sensitive to your partner's feelings?
11. Do you communicate your enjoyment of sex to your partner?
12. Do you sometimes make love in the daytime or with the light on?
13. Do you two have oral sex , or if not, because he/she doesn't want to?
14. Have you tried new positions or are having sex in different places?
15. Are you skilled in bringing your partner to orgasm?
16. If your partner suggested a new sexual act, can you avoid taking it as a criticism of your ability?
17. Have you ever suggested an activity that you heard or read about?
18. If you have a temporary sexual difficulty, can you discuss it?
19. Do you talk with a partner about likes and dislikes in lovemaking?
20. When you have an orgasm and your partner does not, do you try to satisfy him/her by other means?
21. Do you always make sure your partner is fully aroused before continuing with sex?
22. Can your partner tell you he/she is not in the mood without guilt?
23. Are you able to delay your orgasm to prolong intercourse?
24. Are you able to tell your partner that you're not in the mood?
25. Do you often initiate sex without waiting for your partner to do so?
26. Do you tell your partner he/she's not stimulating you correctly?
27. Are you able to arouse your partner if he/she's disinterested?
28. If you had an erotic dream, could you tell him/her about it?
24 or more yes answers point to you having a rocking sex life. You communicate well, have got it down good and practice will keep up the pace for the years to come.
19-23 yes answers means there's room for improvement. Pay close attention to the questions that brought out your differences and talk about how you can come to a meeting point.
18 or below yes answers may indicate a definite problem, in your relationship, not just in the pants. You could try couples counselling if you want to overcome the problem before the ride gets bumpier.